As I get closer to 30, I’ve been focusing, more than ever, on becoming the best version of me. I put high expectations on myself to develop good habits and ditch bad ones. Sometimes things will go great for a few days, then my routine gets interrupted, and my new habits go right out the window.
Just a few weeks ago, while I was visiting NYC , I skipped my morning meditation. At home, I meditate every morning like clockwork. Why couldn’t I have just taken 10 minutes to sit cross-legged on the floor and breathe? Is it really that hard to follow through with good habits, outside of a normal routine?
After reading The Power of Habit, I gained a better understanding of how habits work and why they fail. I learned that habits are formed because of the triggers in our lives. Waking up in my own bed, in my own home, is a trigger for me to drink a glass of water and take a seated meditation before I do anything else. Sitting in the crossed legged position is a trigger for me to close my eyes and focus on my breath. It’s that simple. My reward is a feeling of calmness and positive intentions for my day. That’s what keeps me coming back daily.
According to The Power of Habit, honing in on one tiny habit at a time makes us feel like we’re actually accomplishing something (even if it’s small) and we end up building on that habit naturally. After meditation, I could easily add another habit on to the chain, like say washing my face or starting a load of laundry.
Once the chain of actions become automatic, I can add on something more and over time the tiny changes will become life changing (not so small after all).
Anyhow the point is, if you feel stuck in an endless cycle of habits, you’re not alone. As humans, we’re all wired the same.
The Power of Habit has been life changing because it has helped me to better understand my brain. Most importantly I’ve learned that if I am consistent, eventually good things (say, working out first thing in the morning) become habitual and much easier to follow through with.
*Side note… Just the other day, I saw this really cool habit building product on Kickstarter called Moti. It’s designed to be a trigger and a reward for building new habits. How neat right?