Have you noticed how rare it is to just be alone in your own company these days?
Like really alone, no cell phone distraction, no podcasts, no television. Just you alone with your thoughts.
Last week before I went away to NYC I was feeling detached. I wasn’t up to posting on social media or socializing in general and I was holding negative tension for lack of inspiration.
And I have a tendency to become reclusive when I feel like this, but in a really unhealthy way because I’ll be harboring the fear that I’m missing out on something or thinking that alone time is selfish and lazy.
With everything going on in astrology in the past few weeks, eclipse season and mercury retrograde, I know I’m not alone feeling this way. A lot of my friends are dealing with their own internal conflicts too.
Rather than dealing with it the way I normally would, feeling ashamed and guilty for being “lazy”, I just let myself be as fucking lazy as I wanted. I allowed myself to detach, free of guilt and free of shame.
I’m telling you guys, it felt so good.
I spent a few days journaling a ton as my psychic recommended I do.
I luxuriated in gentle yoga, neighborhood walks and multiple meditation sessions throughout the day. I spent time alone literally just sitting on my ass thinking about myself.
How self-indulgent right?
It’s funny though I didn’t accomplish much physically in those few days, I felt great emotional progress.
I think that over stimulation, always having plans, always thinking about what to post on Instagram, a constant need to be productive or be seen actually slows us down.
If we’re spending every hour of the day trying to be productive, then we don’t have the time or the energy to tune into our emotions.
And it’s so so so important to tune into our emotions because they are what’s holding us back from moving forward.
So I wanted to share a little exercise that might be helpful. If you’re feeling uninspired and a need to detach yourself I encourage you to take a personal day.
- First, take time to yourself doing nothing, it can be 15 minutes or several hours. You can go somewhere beautiful by yourself or just lay in bed with sweatpants and an oversized t-shirt. Ease into the un-comfort of zero distractions and zero productivity. Keep a journal near by and jot down anything uncomfortable you might be feeling. Like how you’re “wasting time” and feel guilty for it. Or maybe you feel sad and lonely. Whatever it is just to allow yourself to feel it.
- Then after you’ve felt your way through all of the negative emotions and I mean really breathing into the discomfort of them spend some time journaling about anything that came up. Ask yourself questions about what came up and answer them honestly. It’s very therapeutic.
- Now go do something that you enjoy doing by yourself. Do it for you. It can be semi-productive, very productive, or not productive at all. It just has to be something that you really enjoy and it has to be alone. You could blast your favorite play list while vacuuming the house (I love doing this), or just go for a long walk in nature. Just do it because you love it and not because you need to stay busy or productive. Really be in the moment with yourself, notice how you feel, really experience every moment of it.
At the end of this personal day, you will likely feel a new burst of energy, you may feel lighter, and hopefully, you will feel a fresh breeze of inspiration.
Just remember that taking time to be alone isn’t a bad thing. It’s healthy. It’s important. And we human beings need to recharge ourselves once in a while so that we can live up to our full potential.
Have a lovely day xo